May all your dreams come true

 03408b60d6942626cdae99f067493261Where do you want to be in 2017? You probably have goals and desires that you want to fulfill. With a fresh new year ahead of you, you might make a list of resolutions or intentions, but have you stopped to think whether these dreams are what you really really want?

After all, it is possible that you will set an intention, and see your dream unfold, but you may still not be satisfied after you get what you think you want.  

There is something more, something deeper, that you may miss if you continue to just reach one material goal after another.

Just like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz found out at the end of her journey, what she really wanted was inside of her all along. Everything you want, everything you are going for, is already here. It is your point of view, your perception, that needs to change. So if you change the way you think about what you want, you may find that you already have it or that you don’t really want it at all.

Changing your mind is easier said than done, but it will happen if you go within.  Pay attention to sychronicities. Pray. Consider what your subconscious is trying to tell you by remembering the dreams you have while sleeping. And most importantly, meditate.

We want to wish everyone a joyous and meaningful 2017. May you all align with your true desires by going within.

Coping With the Snow

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Where we live in New Jersey, it has been snowing. It is one of the snowiest years in a long time and everyone has been growing weary of the seemingly never-ending weather events. In fact, it is so pervasive, and affects so many lives, it is the main thing everyone is talking about. Why is this minor inconvenience a primary focus of attention?

The Two Reasons Why the Storms Create Angst

We retire after the 11 o’clock news not really knowing what the morning will bring. We have to live with the predictions alone, as the future is always uncertain.

Of course, the future is always uncertain and perhaps the storms that have relentlessly blanketed the Northeast is a reminder of that. Life is unpredictable!

Another reason why we blow the effects of the weather out of proportion is because it forces us to make decisions. What will you wear? How will you get to work safely? Should you even go to work or cancel an event?

Our Stress Comes from the Stories We Tell

We like to stay in our comfort zones, but when we are forced to make decisions, and live with the “not knowing,” we invent a new story. The new story is that the winter is stressful and if the snow would just end, we could all go about our routines without worry. But again, life never ceases to change.

The Buddhist saying “winter always turns to spring” is comforting. It metaphorically points out that the winter we dislike will end, and that there is something we can count on. Indeed, if there is anything we can count on, it’s change.

Allow and Appreciate the Winter

So let the winter come and go. Appreciate the beauty of the snow and ice, despite all the trouble it brings. Rest in the assurance that weather is only a small part of your life. And don’t forget to meditate. Going within is the best way to cope with all the inconveniences of daily life.

Is Guided Meditation Really Meditation?

 

We think that guided meditation—the soft and pleasant “voice over” recordings designed to take you through the periods of silence– truncates the benefits of mindfulness breathing, and that the concept is really an oxymoron. Why?

Meditation is About Letting Go

For us, meditation is about surrendering. When you are listening to a calming voice, it is pleasurable, but you are still actively engaged in the listening process. We want you to fully release, props included. Do you meditate by looking at a candle’s flame or by counting your breaths? Do you use prayer beads or other accouterments? Sitting upright on a pillow, or in a chair, are popular ways to begin, but in the end, we would like to see you let go of all outer props—including background music–and just be. You need not even sit. Feel free to lie down on your bed, or melt into your favorite living room chair. Then close your eyes and notice your breaths.

Without Reliance on Props, You Can Access Your Inner Self Anytime

It is often a challenge to find silence in your day to attempt something like this. It is much easier to plug in your headphones and tune out the world, but when you truly connect with your inner self—without a voice guiding you to relax and without New Age music or prayer beads—you will find a recognizable and essential piece of you. It feels safe, familiar, desirable, peaceful, and joyous. We could say when you are there, you will know it, but that place of which we write is so simple, you could easily question your arrival even if you are already there. Of course, we know you have experienced moments of it throughout your life, but without deliberate and continuous effort, you will not reap the additional benefits that these prolonged visits provide.

It is important to remember that you can access your inner self at any moment. Knowing that it is there allows for an easier connection, but it often takes a few minutes of silence to reach that place. This is the self-knowledge that we have been writing about all along. Knowing who you are at a deep level is not only comforting, it is the only way to get centered, and centering allows you to go through life with less stress.

The Real Purpose of Meditation

We cannot describe exactly what you will find once you get there because it is something that has to be experienced. When you go within, in silence—without someone telling you what to do, how to think, or how to feel—you will find the solace you need to more easily connect with source energy.

Synchronicity and our “How to Meditate” Blog Post

The last time we wrote, we wrote on meditation. This was pivotal for us because this is the essence of what we teach. We posted it the afternoon of March 1st and that evening we visited a website and found a blog post with the identical title.

Our first thoughts were that this was an event of synchronicity, and these are things that happen all the time, but this was a little different.

The back-story begins several months ago when Sandrine told Rhonda about a website called The Daily Love. It was one of those things that Sandrine really wanted to investigate and Rhonda did take a look at it. But we had many things to do and it was put on the back burner.

Fast-forward to February 17, 2013 and we met this blog’s founder. Now, that reality would not be so unusual if Sandrine had said that Mastin Kipp was speaking and she wanted to see him, but what happened is that Rhonda was going to the Hay House I Can Do It event in NYC on February 16th and 17th with a friend. Rhonda went on the 16th but her friend could not go on the 17th so Sandrine went in her place. Rhonda had the program and was aware of the list of speakers but did not initially make the connection between Mastin Kipp and The Daily Love. When Mastin appeared on stage, Sandrine was very excited to see that he was there and insisted that we meet him afterwards.

The synchronicity does not stop there. Mastin told us that they were looking for bloggers at The Daily Love. When we wrote this meditation blog, Sandrine said maybe this would be a good post for The Daily Love, but Rhonda said it would be good to post it on our site so it is there when they visit. Again, we have many blog posts, but this was a very special post for us.

That evening, Rhonda visited The Daily Love and noticed that Gabrielle Bernstein had posted a blog with the identical title on the very same day! Gabrielle also spoke at the convention and Rhonda saw her on the 16th. Gabrielle’s talk was not on meditation. Now, The Daily Love features many bloggers from all walks of life, but on this day, for the meditation post, a speaker from the I Can Do It convention who Rhonda happened to see was featured. Gabrielle Bernstein’s post was titled How to Meditate, but it was a vblog and its message was very different from our post.

That ideas come from the universe and are not from the ego is clear. The title of our blog was chosen quickly. We did not even discuss it. The blog was on how to meditate and that is what we called it. It is simple. The synchronicity surrounding the event seems complicated, but in some way, it is very simple too. We are all connected. We all experience the same creative force. Material that is supposed to come forth in this time space reality will come forth through a number of people. And while we experience synchronicity so often in our daily lives, we thought this one was important to share.

How to Meditate

It is likely that you have heard a lot about meditation but the truth is that meditation—as we see it—is very simple. Get quiet. Choose a place where you will not be disturbed. Wear comfortable clothing.  Relax. Sit or recline in a comfortable position and close your eyes.

Notice that you are breathing. Just focus on your breath. Feel your breath. One way that meditation is taught is to count breaths, but that is up to you. Experience the stillness. Notice that you are breathing.

Is that all there is to it? That’s just the start. The journey is internal. It is a good idea to approach your period of silence with a question in mind. Don’t force an answer. Don’t even think about the question. Don’t even try to clear your mind. Bring no expectations to the session. Just be.

Many people say that they cannot stop the running commentary in their minds long enough to meditate, but that is not true. There are no prizes for stopping the most thoughts. Simply be. As thoughts come in, acknowledge them,  pay attention to your breathing, and let the thoughts vanish by themselves. They will eventually. If you are too tense to be still, maybe you need to do something active first. Run or walk it off and take a shower.  Then try again.

Time of day does not matter, but as the day unfolds, your energy level will fade and meditation may be easier.  Early morning, before the rush of the day enters, is also a good time.

Many different teachers have different goals and practices for meditation. For us, meditation is about connecting with the self at a deeper level.

Meditation is an individual experience. You can meditate in the same room as someone else, but ultimately you are alone with yourself once you close your eyes, and perhaps that is what makes the experience extraordinary. It takes a bit of practice to connect with your inner world, but once you do, you will have greater clarity about your life, and you will probably become more intuitive. If you rely on that intuition, you will be following the only guidance you will ever need.  And once you know how to connect, you will be able to do it anytime and anywhere.