Coping With Change

bench-forest-trees-path-largeWe are averse to change. As thinking human beings, we strive to keep our worlds the same.

We live in bubbles as we take care of our families, our vehicles, and our homes. A small thing—an inconvenient illness, a flat tire, a burst pipe—can put us into a tailspin. So how can we handle change without turning a situation into a crisis?

We may not have control over things that happen, but we can control how we handle them. We can control our thinking.

pexels-photoThought Control

Sometimes, our minds run rampant and turn the smallest thing into a potential nightmare.  For example, we get a flat tire and realize we will be late for work. What if we get fired? What if we can’t make rent? Our thoughts take on a life of their own, but the reality is that we are just experiencing a temporary setback.

Our thoughts sometimes make our experiences appear more dramatic than they actually are.  So when we find ourselves in a downward spiral, we ought to question whether the thoughts we are thinking are true, or whether we are worrying about something that will probably never happen.

benchphotoLife Can Be Easy

Anything—and we mean anything– that erupts in life is temporary. Whatever we worry about today will surely morph into something else once again.

So it makes sense to put ourselves first, and when an inconvenient situation arises, raise our awareness and decide on an appropriate response. Do we allow that situation to affect our whole day and cause stress, or do we simply take care of it without adding negative emotions so we can feel good about the day?

Whatever we are going through, we ought to eat well, take rest, sleep enough, and sprinkle exercise and sunshine into our days. Plus, carving out some time to fill a soul need can add pleasure to even the most melancholy periods.

Make Time to Make Change

In our book Change Your Mind: Lose Weight, we explain that in order to lose weight, we have to plan for it just as we would plan for anything else. When you go on vacation, you call the travel agent, you arrange care for your pets and plants, you tell your boss that you want specific days off, and you make sure your hair is coiffed before you leave. You plan. In the same way, you have to plan for weight loss. You have to figure out when you will exercise, when you will shop for food, when you will cook your healthy meals, and how you will handle social events.

While planning is key, it is not everything. If you tend to be thrown off track a lot and find yourself not sticking with your plan, you are not putting yourself first. We write about why it is so important to do that in next week’s Clear Monday post.