Losing the Baby Weight : It has Never Been Easier (Part 4 of 4)

 You’re on the path. You are reading our book and starting to lose weight, or you have simply adopted healthier habits. You are sleeping more now, feeling better about yourself, and you finally feel like a separate human being, distinct from the little person you brought into the world weeks or months ago. As you get back to your pre-pregnancy shape, you will feel better each day. Take time to achieve your goal. A bit of patience goes a long way!

 Your body will need time to get back to normal.

  • Be patient.
  • Meditate daily on the reasons why you want that body back.
  • Think about making your new healthy habits a lifestyle, something that will not only create a better life for you but for your family as well.

Keep in mind that when you take care of yourself, it affects those around you. When you feed yourself well, you will probably also be feeding your family better. Healthy living is contagious!

Whether this is your first baby, or you have other children, you will want to incorporate healthy habits as a lifestyle. 

Next week, we will give you tips on how to incorporate these habits so that your entire family benefits!

What We Think About Weight Watchers

Weight Watchers has a special place in our hearts. Sandrine’s mother joined Weight Watchers several times and Rhonda’s grandmother was most proud of her WW pin denoting her 25 pound weight loss.

Our book Change Your Mind: Lose Weight takes a different approach from Weight Watchers, but what we have in common with the program is attention to weight loss and healthy living. The bottom line is that our program differs largely on one thing, which is that we want you to pay attention to your inner journey, as opposed to deriving motivation from anything outside of yourself.

The points system developed by Weight Watchers has received much acclaim, and many people who follow the system lose weight. Yet, just like any diet you try, you will only be as successful as your inner motivation allows. In other words, Weight Watchers or any other program will “work” because you are working the program. It is you who are doing it. You are losing the weight! You will be successful if you have done the inner work, which is what we help you do in our book.

Bottom line is that losing weight is a calories in/calories out equation. No matter how you lose weight—by counting calories, by counting points, or by not counting at all—you will only maintain that weight loss if you do the inner work. How do you know if you have done that work? You will make food choices most of the time that are based on sound nutrition. You stop thinking points and calories and begin to think about how to nourish your body.

Another sign that you are there is that you are not obsessed with food. You live your life and then your stomach grumbles and you realize you are hungry. You are likely not planning your lunch while you are eating breakfast. You are just enjoying your breakfast. The idea of overeating makes you sick. Once you are almost full, you feel good, and you do not want to take another bite. It is this kind of success that we see as life-changing. There is no longer a fear of gaining weight because overeating does not appeal to you. You go to a party and taste this or that. You never binge. Why would you? Eating too much is uncomfortable and you know this at your core so overeating is just something you would never want to do. And you exercise because you want to, and not only to avoid gaining weight.

Getting to that place requires doing more than counting calories or points, or using behavioral methods of compliance. You can lose weight by following WW guidelines, but maintaining a weight loss requires more than just following the rules and it requires more than learning about nutrition.

Getting there means you must take that inner journey. You have to know yourself and love yourself. When you are at that point, you will make generally healthy choices and that is what we see as success. Success is not how many pounds you lose. Success is how you live.

Is Guided Meditation Really Meditation?

 

We think that guided meditation—the soft and pleasant “voice over” recordings designed to take you through the periods of silence– truncates the benefits of mindfulness breathing, and that the concept is really an oxymoron. Why?

Meditation is About Letting Go

For us, meditation is about surrendering. When you are listening to a calming voice, it is pleasurable, but you are still actively engaged in the listening process. We want you to fully release, props included. Do you meditate by looking at a candle’s flame or by counting your breaths? Do you use prayer beads or other accouterments? Sitting upright on a pillow, or in a chair, are popular ways to begin, but in the end, we would like to see you let go of all outer props—including background music–and just be. You need not even sit. Feel free to lie down on your bed, or melt into your favorite living room chair. Then close your eyes and notice your breaths.

Without Reliance on Props, You Can Access Your Inner Self Anytime

It is often a challenge to find silence in your day to attempt something like this. It is much easier to plug in your headphones and tune out the world, but when you truly connect with your inner self—without a voice guiding you to relax and without New Age music or prayer beads—you will find a recognizable and essential piece of you. It feels safe, familiar, desirable, peaceful, and joyous. We could say when you are there, you will know it, but that place of which we write is so simple, you could easily question your arrival even if you are already there. Of course, we know you have experienced moments of it throughout your life, but without deliberate and continuous effort, you will not reap the additional benefits that these prolonged visits provide.

It is important to remember that you can access your inner self at any moment. Knowing that it is there allows for an easier connection, but it often takes a few minutes of silence to reach that place. This is the self-knowledge that we have been writing about all along. Knowing who you are at a deep level is not only comforting, it is the only way to get centered, and centering allows you to go through life with less stress.

The Real Purpose of Meditation

We cannot describe exactly what you will find once you get there because it is something that has to be experienced. When you go within, in silence—without someone telling you what to do, how to think, or how to feel—you will find the solace you need to more easily connect with source energy.

Synchronicity and our “How to Meditate” Blog Post

The last time we wrote, we wrote on meditation. This was pivotal for us because this is the essence of what we teach. We posted it the afternoon of March 1st and that evening we visited a website and found a blog post with the identical title.

Our first thoughts were that this was an event of synchronicity, and these are things that happen all the time, but this was a little different.

The back-story begins several months ago when Sandrine told Rhonda about a website called The Daily Love. It was one of those things that Sandrine really wanted to investigate and Rhonda did take a look at it. But we had many things to do and it was put on the back burner.

Fast-forward to February 17, 2013 and we met this blog’s founder. Now, that reality would not be so unusual if Sandrine had said that Mastin Kipp was speaking and she wanted to see him, but what happened is that Rhonda was going to the Hay House I Can Do It event in NYC on February 16th and 17th with a friend. Rhonda went on the 16th but her friend could not go on the 17th so Sandrine went in her place. Rhonda had the program and was aware of the list of speakers but did not initially make the connection between Mastin Kipp and The Daily Love. When Mastin appeared on stage, Sandrine was very excited to see that he was there and insisted that we meet him afterwards.

The synchronicity does not stop there. Mastin told us that they were looking for bloggers at The Daily Love. When we wrote this meditation blog, Sandrine said maybe this would be a good post for The Daily Love, but Rhonda said it would be good to post it on our site so it is there when they visit. Again, we have many blog posts, but this was a very special post for us.

That evening, Rhonda visited The Daily Love and noticed that Gabrielle Bernstein had posted a blog with the identical title on the very same day! Gabrielle also spoke at the convention and Rhonda saw her on the 16th. Gabrielle’s talk was not on meditation. Now, The Daily Love features many bloggers from all walks of life, but on this day, for the meditation post, a speaker from the I Can Do It convention who Rhonda happened to see was featured. Gabrielle Bernstein’s post was titled How to Meditate, but it was a vblog and its message was very different from our post.

That ideas come from the universe and are not from the ego is clear. The title of our blog was chosen quickly. We did not even discuss it. The blog was on how to meditate and that is what we called it. It is simple. The synchronicity surrounding the event seems complicated, but in some way, it is very simple too. We are all connected. We all experience the same creative force. Material that is supposed to come forth in this time space reality will come forth through a number of people. And while we experience synchronicity so often in our daily lives, we thought this one was important to share.

How to Meditate

It is likely that you have heard a lot about meditation but the truth is that meditation—as we see it—is very simple. Get quiet. Choose a place where you will not be disturbed. Wear comfortable clothing.  Relax. Sit or recline in a comfortable position and close your eyes.

Notice that you are breathing. Just focus on your breath. Feel your breath. One way that meditation is taught is to count breaths, but that is up to you. Experience the stillness. Notice that you are breathing.

Is that all there is to it? That’s just the start. The journey is internal. It is a good idea to approach your period of silence with a question in mind. Don’t force an answer. Don’t even think about the question. Don’t even try to clear your mind. Bring no expectations to the session. Just be.

Many people say that they cannot stop the running commentary in their minds long enough to meditate, but that is not true. There are no prizes for stopping the most thoughts. Simply be. As thoughts come in, acknowledge them,  pay attention to your breathing, and let the thoughts vanish by themselves. They will eventually. If you are too tense to be still, maybe you need to do something active first. Run or walk it off and take a shower.  Then try again.

Time of day does not matter, but as the day unfolds, your energy level will fade and meditation may be easier.  Early morning, before the rush of the day enters, is also a good time.

Many different teachers have different goals and practices for meditation. For us, meditation is about connecting with the self at a deeper level.

Meditation is an individual experience. You can meditate in the same room as someone else, but ultimately you are alone with yourself once you close your eyes, and perhaps that is what makes the experience extraordinary. It takes a bit of practice to connect with your inner world, but once you do, you will have greater clarity about your life, and you will probably become more intuitive. If you rely on that intuition, you will be following the only guidance you will ever need.  And once you know how to connect, you will be able to do it anytime and anywhere.