Are you successful?

jacket picMost people want to be successful, but what is success? For many, it is about the things they own, their personal status, or how much money they make.

The Definition of Success

Some measure success as if it should follow an upward path, and improve with each passing year. They see it as perhaps being in the right place financially for their age, or at least having the right title. They feel they should be at a certain level of affluence by a certain point in their lives. Others do not give much credence to the path, but rather see success as equated with assets.

How high on the ladder do you need to climb, or how much do you need to own to consider yourself a success?

We say that you don’t need to climb any ladder, and you don’t need to own a thing. The above definitions of success are flawed. Society has conditioned us to follow our egoic longings and so we continue to want more. When we are in the process of pursuing the American Dream, we do have some satisfaction, but a sense of dissatisfaction often emerges.

Success is Happiness

Instead of thinking about what it will take for you to be successful, think about this: When asked what people really want, they generally say they just want to be happy. They think that society’s definition of success will make them happy, but what they really want is to experience joy as much as possible. Make sense?

So success is feeling joy most of the time. While perhaps easier to attain than something outside of yourself, it does take some practice. To be happy, we have to train ourselves to think differently.

How to be Happy  

We have to unlearn some of society’s programming. But to do this, we only have to do two things. One, we must be grateful each day for what we do have, including the people in our lives.  Two, we must connect with our higher selves so that we become comfortable in that inner space and experience who we really are.  When we are satisfied with our choices, are appreciative of all we have, and are in touch with our true selves, we will move toward happiness and create a very successful life.

Welcome 2016!

mountainIt is hard to believe that another year has come to an end.

In 2015, ENoetic Press meetings were often done on the fly, in our precious spare time, and now always with a toddler in tow, but we realize that this is temporary, and  that we will begin to increase our effort as time allows.

That’s how life is. It ebbs and flows. so we had to be flexible.

While we were busy with other things in 2015, we still managed to publish five new blog posts, do a live radio interview, start a new project unlike anything we’ve done before—a novel—and are compiling those resource lists we promised you last year! We are continually coming up with new projects and looking forward to bringing them to fruition. What are you looking forward to?

Think about all you want. Set your intentions. It is a new year and a time for renewal. No worries about resolutions. You don’t have to make them. Just dream the new year into existence with positive thoughts, the things you desire perhaps on a vision board, and as much rest and renewal time you can steal. Winter is here! It is a good time to go within and prepare for all the good things to unfold in 2016.

Coping With Change

bench-forest-trees-path-largeWe are averse to change. As thinking human beings, we strive to keep our worlds the same.

We live in bubbles as we take care of our families, our vehicles, and our homes. A small thing—an inconvenient illness, a flat tire, a burst pipe—can put us into a tailspin. So how can we handle change without turning a situation into a crisis?

We may not have control over things that happen, but we can control how we handle them. We can control our thinking.

pexels-photoThought Control

Sometimes, our minds run rampant and turn the smallest thing into a potential nightmare.  For example, we get a flat tire and realize we will be late for work. What if we get fired? What if we can’t make rent? Our thoughts take on a life of their own, but the reality is that we are just experiencing a temporary setback.

Our thoughts sometimes make our experiences appear more dramatic than they actually are.  So when we find ourselves in a downward spiral, we ought to question whether the thoughts we are thinking are true, or whether we are worrying about something that will probably never happen.

benchphotoLife Can Be Easy

Anything—and we mean anything– that erupts in life is temporary. Whatever we worry about today will surely morph into something else once again.

So it makes sense to put ourselves first, and when an inconvenient situation arises, raise our awareness and decide on an appropriate response. Do we allow that situation to affect our whole day and cause stress, or do we simply take care of it without adding negative emotions so we can feel good about the day?

Whatever we are going through, we ought to eat well, take rest, sleep enough, and sprinkle exercise and sunshine into our days. Plus, carving out some time to fill a soul need can add pleasure to even the most melancholy periods.

The Introvert Myth

imagesThe world wants us to believe that there are two kinds of people: introverts and extroverts. Introverts prefer alone time and extroverts thrive on social contact. But the truth is that humans are social creatures. We all need social contact. And as spiritual beings, we need quiet time, or time to connect with our higher selves.

Every individual is unique and each has different preferences. If you label yourself an introvert as an excuse not to connect with people, you may want to re-examine your thinking. Distancing can thrust you into periods of loneliness and deprive you of human contact that aids personal growth. Similarly, if you label yourself an extrovert and are never alone, you deprive yourself of the opportunity to get to know yourself.

Balance is key to any successful life. Some alone time. Some time with others.  But never feel pressured to shift the balance based on the advice of others or based on what you think you are supposed to do. Get in touch with your inner self, which provides all the guidance you will ever need.

Three Diet Rules You Should Break Now

free_2525952Diet Rule One: Weigh Yourself Daily

Many people weigh themselves every day when dieting so they can see the downward trend. It is motivating, at least at first, but eventually weight loss will slow down. That’s natural. And you don’t want to derail your plans because you gain a pound or two of water weight. We recommend weighing yourself just once each month. This way, you are free from the scale most of the time, but you will still be able to monitor your progress.

Diet Rule Two: Exclude Bad Foods from Your Diet

There are no bad foods. Some are healthier than others and we do recommend that you move toward a healthy normal, but deprivation is not the answer to a sustained weight loss. To keep losing weight while not depriving yourself of the foods you love, eat your favorites in moderation. Some of you might say we don’t understand. If you could eat in moderation, you would. You always eat the whole bag of chips or you feel you need the Supersized meal. But we say, we get it. We do understand. We know that once you change your mind, your thinking will be totally different! And the weight will just melt off while you are enjoying the foods you love.

Diet Rule Three: Start Your Diet on Monday

Why wait? Wait–why diet? Dieting doesn’t work. So implement a healthy lifestyle and do it right away! You may need to do a bit of planning before actually starting a program, but changing your thinking can start now! Some of our readers have reported that they started to lose weight by just reading the book, and before implementing any of our recommendations.

In our book, we provide an anecdote where we dispel the myth that you need to change your outside circumstances to accommodate an eating plan. Rather, you can just adapt your food choices to your current lifestyle. No worries about going to that party and feeling deprived. You can enjoy your life while losing weight! If you would like more information about our holistic approach to weight loss, visit changeyourmindloseweight.com